If you're just the girlfriend, there are some things you should not do until you become a wife. Some women do everything a wife would do then wonder why their man is in no hurry to marry her. You know the old saying "Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free."
For example, if you're just the girlfriend, cleaning his house, washing his dishes, doing his laundry, ironing his shirts, folding his clothes, socks, underwear, and cooking regularly are not things you do until you become a wife and even then, these are things he should help out with unless you are a stay at home wife.
If a man complains you don't do these things for him, tell him hiring a maid or calling his mama would probably be his best bet. It's not to manipulate a man into marrying you, it's about not giving up everything when you're not everything to him.
If a man says he won't marry you because you don't do these things, find another man because he never planned on marrying you in the first place and that was just an excuse to make you feel like the bad guy so he can keep you around while he reaps the benefits of the things a wife would do. He'll make you think by doing these things, he will eventually marry you.
Any fair man who respects you will understand you don't do these things until you ARE his wife. If he expects you to and thinks it's your job prior to getting married, that's a HUGE sign of his selfishness and you may want to reconsider marrying a man like this anyways. A fair man would not view this as a woman's job, instead he would be appreciative that his woman would even do it.
YOU teach people how to treat you, for example, why would a child feel the urgency or desire to work hard later on in life when they've been spoiled the entire time?
If you choose to do these things to show your man that you are wife material and he takes it for granted or never takes your relationship to the next level, stop doing it, otherwise, you'll end up resentful and bitter.
If you choose to do these things to show your man that you are wife material and he takes it for granted or never takes your relationship to the next level, stop doing it, otherwise, you'll end up resentful and bitter.
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1 comments:
The common household duties ain't even the larger part of what-not-to-do when you're not holding wife status.....consider withholding sensitive information (SS#, emergency contacts, bank accounts, etc.). You don't need him running around with that knowledge unless he's ready to buck up on his side, too!
April 24, 2012 at 5:46 PMPost a Comment