A guy asked me:
"Why aren't women honest if they're not interested in you?
Why do they keep you around if they only like you as a friend?"
"Why aren't women honest if they're not interested in you?
Why do they keep you around if they only like you as a friend?"
Unfortunately, people in general are not always going to give you the straight forward, direct, and honest answer you think you deserve. This is not a 'woman' thing, if I had a nickel for every guy I got into a verbal sparring with because they couldn't handle the truth, I'd be rich. So let's stop making this a gender thing!
Now, to answer the question, here are the TOP REASONS in my opinion why some women don't tell a guy the truth:
7. If she never returns your phone calls or replies to your texts, THAT is her way of telling you she's not interested. If you're asking why she gave you her # to begin with, maybe she saw something in you she thought she liked but she got turned off by something you said.... or refer to #4.
If you happen to run into her, the last thing you should do is tell her about herself. You will come across as being desperate even if you don't think you are and it will only reassure her she made the right decision by not entertaining you.
6. She could be using you and doesn't want whatever arrangement the two of you have to end so she tells you what you want to hear.
5. If she doesn't know you and you're approaching her to express your interest, she might say she's 'in a relationship already' when she's really single. She's not sure if you can handle a direct answer like "you're not my type" so to avoid having an argument, she'll lie to avoid one.
4. She may give you the wrong number because she finds it's faster and easier to get rid of you this way rather than telling you she's not interested, again because some guys can't take no for an answer and will argue you down. A lot of guys will read this and say "well I'm not like that"... Yeah well she doesn't know YOU so how is she supposed to know you're not like that? Stop taking things so personally.
3. If you haven't admitted you're interested in her, why would she just come out and say "I only like you as a friend"? While some women know deep down a man is interested in her even though he didn't say it verbally, it would sound ridiculous for her to just offer up this information. This is not her fault, this is your fault for expecting her to read your mind.
Now, if you did communicate your interest and she still didn't tell you the truth and keeps you lingering on, it could be because she lacks the backbone to hurt your feelings but why would you allow yourself to stay friends with a woman you know you can't handle being just friends with? It's your fault if you chose to stick around under these circumstances. You should only remain friends with a woman if you can truly be JUST her friend, otherwise, you have no one to blame but yourself.
2. You've shown you're way too sensitive and can't handle the truth by becoming vindictive i.e. bad mouthing her to anyone who will listen, trying to sabotage her anyway possible, trying to sleep with her friends, spreading rumors about her, trying to get her fired by showing up at her job, and/or just acting crazy in general.
1. If you're in the friend zone, THAT is her way of telling you she's not interested in you romantically. Refer to #3.
I'm not condoning lying, not promoting it, or advocating it. I'm merely giving you some of the reasons why some women lie. To sum it up, women lie for some of the same reasons some men lie. Some are just liars and don't care who they hurt while others lie because they don't think you can handle the truth.
Instead of spending unnecessary energy on getting mad at people when they lie, all you can really do is equip yourself with the knowledge, wisdom and common sense of being able to read between the lines. When you think about it, people get lied to all the time and if we spent our time getting mad at those that didn't tell us the truth, we'd be mad all the time.
If people paid more attention to other's actions and body language, they'd get so much further in life and wouldn't spend enormous amounts of energy getting mad which only harms you more than the person who did the lying. They could weed out those that don't follow through and just keep it moving. Life is full of obstacles that can't be avoided and liars is just one of those many obstacles.
Like I always say, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% is how you choose to respond to it. When you can accept the fact not everyone is going to do right by you and when you learn how to become your own best friend, it will protect you and it won't steal your joy when others are not.
If I missed a reason on why women lie or if you just want to share your thoughts, please comment below.
Instead of spending unnecessary energy on getting mad at people when they lie, all you can really do is equip yourself with the knowledge, wisdom and common sense of being able to read between the lines. When you think about it, people get lied to all the time and if we spent our time getting mad at those that didn't tell us the truth, we'd be mad all the time.
If people paid more attention to other's actions and body language, they'd get so much further in life and wouldn't spend enormous amounts of energy getting mad which only harms you more than the person who did the lying. They could weed out those that don't follow through and just keep it moving. Life is full of obstacles that can't be avoided and liars is just one of those many obstacles.
Like I always say, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% is how you choose to respond to it. When you can accept the fact not everyone is going to do right by you and when you learn how to become your own best friend, it will protect you and it won't steal your joy when others are not.
If I missed a reason on why women lie or if you just want to share your thoughts, please comment below.
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